There are many occasions when clergy can be of enormous help to individuals and families, sharing joys and sorrows, and offering spiritual support during crises. Here are some of the times when you should contact clergy.
Before Going to the Hospital
When we know about a hospitalization, clergy and lay visitors will call on parishioners to offer help, friendship, prayers and sacraments. Hospitals do not notify churches of hospitalized parishioners. As soon as you know about a hospitalization, please call the church office or have a family member call.
When There is a Death in the Family, or if Death is Imminent
The church is thanked for its ministry to the dying and to mourners perhaps more than for any other service it renders. Upon a death, please call the clergy first, prior to making any arrangements. The sooner the clergy are called in, the more helpful they can be in bringing you, in one of life’s most painful moments, pastoral support and an awareness of God’s love. Clergy guide those in mourning through the planning process, and should be consulted prior to setting a date, time, or location for funeral services. Remember, too, that parishioners are encouraged to pre-plan arrangements and can contact the clergy to do so.
When You Wish to Make a Confession
You have an absolute guarantee that your confession, when given to a priest in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, will be kept private by the clergy. Much strength for living comes by the unburdening of one’s guilt to a fellow human being who can give you the wonderful assurance of God’s love and forgiveness.
When a Parishioner Becomes Unable to Attend Church
Whether due to illness, injury, or the infirmity of age, arrangements can be made for visits by clergy and Lay Eucharistic Visitors as part of our regular visitation program.
When a Baby is Born
The birth of a baby is one of God’s greatest miracles. Prayers of thanksgiving and a blessing upon the child and the parents are appropriate immediately following a birth.
When You Decide to be Married
Whether you are planning to be married at St. Andrew’s or elsewhere, your clergy can help enrich your preparation for marriage by joining with you in conversations as you look ahead to your life together. You should start discussing plans for the wedding day as far ahead of time as possible. If you would like to be married at St. Andrew’s, you must speak with the clergy before deciding upon a date.
When Alcohol or Drugs Become a Problem for You or Someone You Love
The alcohol or drug dependent person is ill and needs help, just as a person with any illness needs help. Clergy can support individuals and the family, as a resource and for support.
When You Would Like to Talk About a Difficult Decision
The big decisions in life are so important that they should be talked about and prayed through. Your work, getting married or divorced, a change in jobs, are all included. Your clergy can bring new light to the situation and stand ready to discern the matter with you in confidence, friendship, and prayer.